Olive put her foot on my forehead, so I took this picture.

My marriage ended in 2017, so I went online and dated on and off. I met someone in January of 2019 and was in a committed relationship until the end of 2020.

It was an uneven relationship, we wanted different things, so I was back on the dating scene in 2021.

Since 2017 I’ve probably dated TOO much, and what I’ve realized is that intelligence, mutual desire and basic honesty are the three most important factors to seek out.

A smart woman can’t date an average IQ guy. She’ll eventually sense the cognitive gap and might even lose respect for him. Same for a smart guy with an average IQ woman.

There are more folks who have an average IQ than a higher IQ. A human with an IQ over 130 points is only 2.5% of the population, so that individual has far less options.

IQ is on a bell curve, so anyone with a 110 IQ will match with 60% of the population!

Once you whittle down your dating pool to 2.5% then you must assess if your partner is honest or not.

Honesty and character are hard to ascertain, but there are markers of it:

1. How someone treats their family.
2. Longevity at any job.
3. Credit score.
4. Your intuitive sense about that person.

Once you find a SMART and HONEST person then you have to ask yourself if mutual attraction exists.

I know, so many hoops to jump through!

Ben Alexander

November 30th 2021